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JAP - Jump And Pass

I belong to this very vibrant hike group, Tha Outdoor Tribe and besides the usual monthly hikes that bring us together; the whatsapp group page is just on a whole different level. Like most active whatsapp groups, one could meet a thousand messages within a split second of being offline. So when some of us can’t keep up with the chats, we’d easily write “JAP”, moving past all the non-important messages. Not just that, with a lot of people with diverse backgrounds and ideologies, there’s bound to be conflict every now and then. Sometimes when someone just doesn’t want to get into it, he/she just JAPs, like it’s not worth the stress you dig?
I often think about this and I’ve realized applying JAP in life, in DJ Khalid’s voice, is a MAJOR KEY in life. Truth is you can’t always spend your time throwing stones at every dog that barks at you. Ignoring things not worth your time and attention is an intelligent way to show your wisdom and maturity. You know the phrase “Pick Your Battles”, y…
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