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RAPE: Who Is To Blame???



Rape is an all too familiar issue yea? Statistics show that 1 out of every 6 women has been a victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. Its a very sensitive topic to talk about because a lot of controversy often surrounds it as people tend to raise concerns on whether or not the victim is to be blamed for getting raped...or ask if at all she's being truthful.


People usually get focused on why someone gets raped disregarding the fact that the person has suffered a great ordeal and would probably have to live with a stigma.

I have seen cases where a mother blames her daughter for being raped. That one gives me real pain. There have also been other instances where the female victim is blamed because of what she wears; saying it is her responsibility to prevent it. Again blame is still put on a victim that probably went out at night to just chill...and then got drunk. You'd hear questions like " Na who send am?" "Eh na she go drink". Some will still go further to say "she don dey do before naw,no be say she be virgin"

So its ok to rape someone because of how she looks?  Its ok to violate her because she's not "so innocent"? Does it mean women can't wear tank tops, bum shorts or short skirts anymore? So someone that goes to the bar and meets someone else gets what she deserves? I have not seen it written anywhere yet that being drunk is a form of consent tho. What ever happened to being mad at the offender or whoever made him that way? Or even blaming any other thing but the victim? Everyone be giving some form of reasons to excuse such wickedness

As much as I personally advice against provocative dressing and being in compromising situations especially with strangers, there is no justification for rape. So what if she wears just short skirts? That's what she wants. Why can't you control the animal in you? And yes she's a bit drunk.. uncle treat her like you would treat your sis and take her home safely. Aunty that is blaming her daughter...please fight for her and support her. Put the beast of a human behind bars!!

Rape has become so common people tend to just wave it aside as "one of those things".. please let's do what is right

Anyways,this is just my opinion. As always I have to ask... Talk your own with Krystal...who should we blame??

11 comments:

  1. Sensitive and complex. If i were to apportion blames it would be 5% for ladies/victim for being too assuming and not properly assessing the possible dangers especially by asking "what ifs?". Then 95% for the men/rapist, sex is a consensual act as such does not require coercion. By egaging in such acts or even thinking so you've debased yourself to the rank of an animal.
    But in all i agree with your perspective.

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  2. Sensitive and complex. If i were to apportion blames it would be 5% for ladies/victim for being too assuming and not properly assessing the possible dangers especially by asking "what ifs?". Then 95% for the men/rapist, sex is a consensual act as such does not require coercion. By egaging in such acts or even thinking so you've debased yourself to the rank of an animal.
    But in all i agree with your perspective.

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  3. Totally agree with you dear. #speakoutagainstrape

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  4. Too often, judges and others
    in authority make derogatory remarks about
    victims. This has an impact on how others view
    victims.
    We believe that every age group needs to stop
    blaming women for rape and putting responsibility
    directly onto the rapist.

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  5. If a man rapes a woman. His shaft should be cut off. There is no reason for such an act. Even if she was walking naked on the street.

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  6. Le Bestie3/2/16 14:52

    Rape is an extreme invasion of the privacy of the victim, both physically and emotionally. No matter how provocative a lady's dressing is, raping her is unacceptable. And the victimisation and blaming of the victim is one of the reasons rapes are not usually reported. People should speak up and offenders should be punished.

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  7. Perpetrators should be lynched in my opinion.

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  8. Rape is psychological and emotional murder.... and the wages of sin is death.

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  9. This topic is sensitive and very important to me because I've read and heard sad stories of rape victims. And it breaks my heart when people blame the victim. No man should EVER rape a girl! But I will like to drag the married men who rape (or as law addresses it 'assault' ) their wives. If you physically abuse and force sex on your wife have it at the back of your mind that you are a RAPIST! Paying her brideprice doesn't ever give you the right to abuse her. It's so unfortunate that rape cases are the most difficult to win in courts, even if there is medical proof of penetration it's almost impossible to prove that you didn't give consent. .....I pray for these rape victims especially the ones being abused in their own homes.

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    1. Good one duchess. Rape in marriage is definitely a No No!!

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