It's sad that in this modern day and time we still base as a criterion the tribe of a person we want to settle down with when love should lead the way. This problem may not necessarily come from the individuals themselves, but the family and relatives. A lot of us don't even realize how horrible it can be not until we find ourselves in the same position.
Many people have remained unmarried due to the opposition from families when they finally bring home someone they love and want to settle down with. Even when they eventually get married, watch how the marriage crashes down due to problems and interference of extended family members for lack of acceptance and approval. Tribalism is like the core foundation of Nigerians' and a lot of Africans' values. We've been brought up to think or have certain perceptions of other tribes or ethnic groups. As a result we have increase in unhappy marriages, cheating, broken homes, divorce rates and even unemployment (but that's a topic for another day).
I get that parents and relatives may want the very best for us. They may have probably had experiences or seen other people's experiences to have marked some tribes as no go areas. Most of them have been so brought up in a way that they think marrying from any other tribe asides theirs would be making the blood line impure. This issue doesn't just arise in inter-tribal relationships...even within a tribe there are boundaries oh. For example, me as an Anambra girl, from childhood, I've already been given list of places in Igboland that I can't marry to, not to talk of other tribes. I'm sure some other people can attest to this. Why is it so? Like the tribalism runs deep in the blood. It gets to the extent of "suicide" and "disown" threats or even placing curses if such marriages take place. And whether we like it or not, we do need our parents' blessings as far as marriage is concerned.
Sigh! It's sad that we can't just up and go against laid rules and wishes of our families in most cases. After all, family first right? Nevertheless, I still believe and hope that our own generation will embrace ethnic diversity in love and marriage. I still hope we can foster true love and good relationships among each other to obliterate this tribalism of a thing. We should each contribute our own quota to this battle. A Fulani man should be able to get married to an Ikwerre or Igbo man. A Ghanaian lady should not have hassles in settling down with a Nigerian or South African. The earlier we change our mindsets the better. Personally I love the idea of mixed marriages and learning other people's cultures...Variety is the spice of life not so?
Notwithstanding my own views, I doubt I'd be able to forge ahead with a relationship or marriage not approved by my family....that's just how I've been brought up. What about you? Talk with Krystal :)