Most ladies think that what men want is either sex or good food.But they have failed to realise that even though they may be the best at sexing and cooking, a guy would likely bail out on the relationship just because his heart is not really in it. If his heart doesn't belong to you, no Jet li sex style/position will make him stay. Even that saying that "the way to a man's heart is his stomach" isn't always true. After all some ladies can't cook to save their lives and yet are loved so unconditionally by their spouse. Anyways, to make sure you got his heart, here's what you should do..
-BE VULNERABLE. Let yourself go. When you're having a bad day or you're hurting, don't hide your emotions. Let down your defences and don't be afraid to cry when you have to. Let him know how you feel. Also get him to be vulnerable. Ask him about his day, his work, what's bothering him.. Don't be a pest but don't be scared to pry gently and connect deeply with him. This way you become his confidante.
-GIFT HIM RANDOMLY. Get him gifts just because you want to, not because it's his birthday or valentine's day or any other occasion/holiday. Spend good money on him (I didn't say be a mumu and be using money to buy his love). Random gifts are more special and show him how kind and caring you are all the time, not just on occasions.
-SHARE A SECRET WITH HIM. Reveal things to him about yourself that you won't just up and tell anyone. This demonstrates some level of trust. Once you show him that you trust him, he tends to get even closer and that way, he in turn gets to trust you. This lays good foundation for a strong relationship.
-BE GOOFY AND WEIRD AROUND HIM. Be flexible and spontaneous. Don't always be the rigid predictable person. Go beyond formalities when you're out with him. Amaze him with your individuality and self confidence. Also make him feel comfortable enough around you to be himself. The more he expresses himself with you around and feels less pressure to act all manly and grown up, he'd get to love and appreciate you more because you appreciate his true self.
-GET COOL WITH HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS and win them over with your personality. It is important to have his squad on your side. Be interested in his family. Know their birthdays and remind him about them, ask about their welfare, remind him when he has to do stuffs for them, celebrate with them...just see his family as yours you get? Have fun with his friends and don't try to distance or push them away. Ejor, don't turn yourself into "boy-boy" because you want to impress them oh. You are just OYO!!
-RESPECT HIM. Respect can help make a relationship last longer after all the "beginner's flame" has died down. Tell him things like "I believe in you, I'm proud of you, you're awesome, you're the best". It's like speaking to a part of his psyche that yearns for approval and respect. Just make him feel good about himself. Also learn to apologize immediately you've done something wrong.
-MAKE HIM FEEL CHALLENGED. Every man loves a good challenge. You don't have to submit to his will all the time. Men love women with a mind of their own. Don't be arrogant though, but shoe you have a strong sense of your own values
Above all, LOVE HIM TRULY AND RIGHTLY. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. Let him feel the depth of your feelings for him. Let him know thag you love him. Don't hesitate to tell or show him. Show him your dark side too (because everyone's got one) and believe everything would work out for the best.
Soooooo I don talk finish. All the men them, una gri? Did I really speak your mind? What else do you want? Ladies what more do you think you should be doing? If you haven't been doing any of the above, berra get to work now. But I take God beg you, don't be mumuciosly foolish in love. It's not what I've said at all.
Oya...Talk with Krystal ;)