Hi y'all, been a minute...Let me just take a moment to send my love anyone and everyone who's always aching for and looking forward to more Real Talk here. Your words of encouragement and support keep me going....like you're the reason I do this.
Without much-ado, you've seen the topic for today abi? I know most of y'all dabble in such supposed friendships one too many times. And in the end someone is almost always left hurt in the process.
I've never been the type to have FWBs though...because I always think in the long run, even though I try to deny it, I will surely catch feelings. I remember telling my friends one time that Friends with Benefits (in the sexual sense) seemed stupid to me. In fact it doesn't exist because in my opinion, I actually feel there's no way you'd have shenanigans with someone and not feel anything for them. Like I believe there's no such thing as meaningless sex...except of course you get drunk at a bar and land in bed with s stranger. Sex connects two people not just physically...but it brings the souls together each time y'all get down to it. And now you're friends with this particular person, definitely there's some force of attraction or some chemistry between the two of you for the both of you to want to be intimate in the first place; you don't just get intimate once or twice...you do it for a long while...and in your mind you think you won't be up in your feelings? Then one person will now say "It's just sex okay, no strings attached"..... O di mma! Y'all be tying yourselves up with ropes and complicating your lives further.
Sometimes, from what I've noticed...one party involved in this so called symbiotic relationship actually has true and deep feelings for the other...and probably just as he or she has been trying within all their power to get the other party to see them but for some reason or the other, they resort to being "beneficial friends".
I even know of some people...girls especially who are in committed relationships and yet are looking for benefits with another friend. Mtschew...it's like they're following you from the village. Be forming and acting all tough meanwhile any small crack and you'd fall into pieces.I understand sometimes people just engage in FWB because they're trying to protect their hearts or themselves from any emotional upset or trauma. They use that as an excuse to go on frolicking...Brothers and sisters...something will sha go wrong...more than half of the time it does. Sometimes both parties are lucky if they realize they both feel deeply for each other and decide to end their stupidity and just be exclusive. Others may as well just hurt themselves and move to the next one to establish symbiosis.
So maybe I'm silly or wrong for believing Friends With Benefits isn't something real or that simple....
Whether or not I'm wrong, let's talk. What do you think about being friends with benefits with someone? Does it work? Does anything good come out of it? Does it protect you from getting hurt? Is it equivalent to just wasting each other's time? This is the time for all you experienced lot to show yourselves oh.....LOL
Since everyone including myself learns from each other here, Talk with Krystal about it....share your views and perspectives ei? *Hugs and kisses*