When I got to know who was on the other end of the phone, I won't lie ehn, the small demons in my head went off ... I don't know how I managed to remain calm and talk normal. No no, I know..I've been saved by the Master, Hallelujah!!
Anyways, I indulged the conversation, exchanged pleasantries; and bruva was like "he wanted to wish me everything good for the new year like he's been doing everyone, didn't want no fight", asked things not be awkward when we cross paths (really though, how e wan take be before?)
The whole thing just brought back some memories I won't have minded never remembering at all. As much as I have matured and gathered up what was left of my heart since then, I strongly feel that pending the type of breakup folks may have had, the party that messed up shouldnt reach out, even though they have good intentions.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying exes can't be friends, ofcourse they can. There are the casual exes or childhood exes where time and growth/maturity have now allowed a friendly check-in. Not this one though. In some cases as tumultuous and heartwrenching as mine was, the distance apart with no calls/texts and the least memory of them is best. Its like robbers taking your stuff and asking you if you guys can still chill regardless. Plus I mean, how on earth do you hurt someone and then expect not to be some form of awkwardness when y'all run into each other? Like he/she would jump and hug you like nothing happened? Or you guys will actually have a decent conversation? Naaaa.
There was a tweet I saw one time where a dude asked his fellow guys not to reopen a wound by reaching out to someone they hurt just because you want to make peace. I agree with him. Your ex doesn't need to hear from you. They are at peace already. Unless they want it, stay completely out of their lives.
In my case I just got a bit upset (mostly because he made me remember he existed), but it was nothing more than a little annoyance to help me recognize how over him I actually am. Nevertheless, I do wish him well and though I'd prefer to live the rest of my life not seeing him ever, if I do see him, we would try to be civil and "not awkward"..LOL!
That being said, Happy New Year krystals, I've missed sharing with you. Back and better...get ready for plenty talk😉
Still your girl, Krys 💫