Ladies always gist their girlfriends of their sexcapades and this can either boost or diminish a dude’s rep big time. You should hear a woman describe someone she just had sex with; if he was unbelievably good you would hear something like “He snatched my soul” or “he set my pumpum on fire”. Then if brother arrived even before the chorus of the first track, the common line “that one is just a five-second-man” or “after all the bragging uncle came after just ordinary kiss”…yoo umu nwanyi have bad mouth you don’t even know the half of it.
It’s one thing to achieve an erection and be able to climax/have an orgasm (at least everything is working), but it is very embarrassing and quite distressful when a man can’t keep it up for too long and ends up not satisfying his partner. It’s not only the man Premature Ejaculation affects, the lady in question (especially if she really loves him) gets very frustrated after many counts of “coming too fast”. In short, most marriages have broken up because of this sole problem. That’s how one cab man was advising me that I better test bae before marriage to be sure he can perform else I will cry blood…LOL; I guess that’s why most women take their partners for “test drive” sessions just to be sure they won’t need to turn to dildos or even worse, another man for optimum satisfaction.
Premature Ejaculation refers to uncontrolled ejaculation either before or shortly after sexual penetration (after only few seconds or minutes of thrusting). This means he “gets there” sooner than he or his partner wants and has no control over it. It’s believed that this happens to every guy at least once in their lifetime, but it becomes an issue when it’s now a pattern.
So why does this happen to some men? Many things could play a factor but most of them are usually psychological than physiological….has to do with the mind. Sometimes it’s the fear of not being able to give the woman enough pleasure probably because he is inexperienced…so anxiety builds up and by the time he flops the first time, the anxiety is increased and problem compounded. Truth is people don’t just get to be good in bed; it takes some sexual experience and it gets better with age (most times). Other factors that could play a role include guilt, depression, hormonal problems, injury or the use of certain medicines.
Pre mature ejaculation is usually diagnosed after a discussion with your doctor about your medical and sexual history.
Treatment with drugs may not be needed; you and your partner may just have to come up with techniques to help delay ejaculation. Like during foreplay, tell boo not to do plenty up and down around that area (simulation); just to stroke you jejely, enough to give you a hard on…then take charge and play with her body, get her wet like make sure it’s a rain forest there. After that, proceed to enter the gate to her paradise, but don’t just thrust in and out continuously. Go in hard, then slow, then harder and if it feels you’re about to come, stop! Distract yourself and come out of the cuntus. Kiss her and do more foreplay, by the time you must have recovered and you feel you’re ready to go again, you may enter… The more you practice delay, the better you become. Don’t overthink things and don’t get too nervous about it. You already have her, so take your time. The more stressed and worried you are about satisfying her, the harder it is to have a sustained erection.
Now you the woman, you can boost bae’s confidence. When it happens the first time, don’t talk him down; tell him it’s okay and help him out where necessary. It helps when issues like this are talked about between partners rather than running off to your friends to yab him. Except you don’t feel strongly for him, shame sef go catch you as you dey talk. Someone like me would want to be able to brag and give testimony to booboo’s handwork…LOL.
Besides delay techniques, there are delay condoms as well. This type of condom usually have a local anesthetic like Benzocaine that helps desensitize the man’s equipment hence delays climax and prolongs excitement.
For those that want quick action, Red Vigor Chocolate has been known to be some men’s savior. It’s actually just chocolate (a known aphrodisiac). Other guys would want to combine this with a drug like Tadalis/cialis which contains 20mg of tadalafil, a known phosphodiesterase type 5-inhibitor; helps men with erectile dysfunction to achieve and maintain an erection. The drug relaxes the blood vessels in the penis increasing blood flow and causing an erection. It is taken once a day between 30 minutes - 36 hours prior to the planned sexual activity. I’ve seen some guys come back to the pharmacy like “The girl believed me die!!”…haha
Sidenafil (Viagra) is another drug of choice but its side effects like headaches and heartburn have reduced its use. It works by also inhibiting PDE5 enzyme with an increase in Nitric oxide, increasing blood flow to the penis and encouraging a lasting erection. However people with heart problems, kidney disease, liver disease, hypo or hypertension should stay away from this drug before you go and kpai on top woman.
A change in diet too could help: eggs, asparagus, less sugar, carrots, oats, avocados, bananas, onions and garlic go a long way in helping you build your stamina and increase your sexual drive.
That’s all for today, until next time on Health Corner with Krystal, take care darlings.