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PEDOPHILES - The Need To Protect Our Young Ones

Each time I read posts about sexual abuse on children, it breaks my heart. Not just because I think the perpetrators are sick, twisted and demented; but also because of the trauma these little ones are put through and also how upsetting it is that those meant to take care of them (parents and guardians) would rather not believe them or try to cover up such a crime. I recall writing sometime in 2016 or so about this particular issue and the urgent need for it to be curbed. 

As parents, guardians, teachers, elders and siblings, we really really need to do more where sexual abuse is concerned. It’s ridiculous that some parents would blame the child for the sins of a pedophile and go as far as beating them. I have heard a woman curse out her daughter and call her a prostitute for “tempting” a relative that abused her. Horrible!
I’d like to share an experience. Never really told outsiders about it, but when I think back, I love my mother even more for how she handled everything. This happ…

To Love and To Cherish - A Val's Day Special

Yay! Happy St. Valentine’s day my darlings. I know I know, today is Ash Wednesday as well and it begins the season of Lent. So most of you that are Catholics like me better make it top priority to go to church and be reminded that we are dust and shall return to dust one day.

Even though we’d be in a sober mode of reflection, doesn’t change the fact it’s a day many people around the world express their deepest affections for their loved ones. I’m a huge sucker for love, a hopeless romantic. Seeing people in love gives me some sort of joy and satisfaction. If you’re single you don’t need to feel any type of way, LOVE IS LOVE. You have family and friends who truly love you; so seek them out and send all the love and appreciation to them for always being there.

For today’s post, I chose to make it an expression of love to mine and those of others as well. Think of it as a collection of love notes. And hey, if someone wrote you one on this space, you really are a special kind of human…He…

OUT OF BATTERY - Recharging Weakened Motivation

A friend shared this photo above on our group page and asked “if this were the cover for your book or movie, what will be the title and what would the story be about?” The moment I saw the picture, without reading the question, it already spoke to me. I can’t write a book though, but I can surely make a quick blog post about it.
I honestly feel that the picture describes the phase I’ve been trying to wiggle out of. I know I’m not the only one who’s been down and out and keeps asking herself ‘What’s the point?” Like you’re not necessarily depressed (though it could be a contributing factor) but getting things done or following through a project you set out to accomplish is now a huge challenge. You lack motivation and you’re just waiting for something or someone to motivate you. Your batteries are out and you’re slowly becoming a shadow of yourself.
So that was me; no willpower...If I had my way then, I’d have probably curled up in a cave and be by myself, hiding away from the world …

Let’s Talk Condoms: Double Bagging and Proper Use

I had wanted to do a video for this topic but my mischievousness wouldn’t let me be great…LOL. I actually love educating people about the use of condoms because overtime I’ve noticed even with a lot of folks being enlightened, some of us still make some gross mistakes that eventually land us in trouble.
Condoms (AKA rubber/umbrella like some of my patients would call it) have been around a long time. The most popular is the male condom; yea most people don’t even know there’s the female version used in an interesting way (we’d get to that soon). The male condom is a thin-like sheath usually made out of latex and is worn on the penis; the female condom on the other hand is a polyurethane sheath with a flexible ring at either end. Both work by keeping semen from getting into the vajayjay. In case you don’t know how to use a condom, let me give a quick step by step process for each type.
Male Condom: Open the sachet containing your umbrella carefully avoiding ripping it (the condom I mea…

The A/S Question: When Is the Right Time To Ask?

Most, if not all of us, know genotype poses a big issue when choosing a life partner. It's good that more people are getting more enlightened about Sickle Cell Anaemia and the risk that comes with marrying a person that carries the sickle cell trait as themselves (both parties being AS). But then there's always the headache of having to figure out when to pop the big question. No no, not the one that comes with that shiny rock; the "What is your genotype?"

A friend told an experience about a guy her cousin tried setting her up with. The very first day the spoke over the phone, after introducing himself, dude wasted no time in throwing the question at her sharply. Sister was immediately turned off and decided he was a NO NO. Not because she's not AA but cause she felt the question came to early with some desperation and was too personal.

See, I honestly don't blame the oga. He was trying to be cautious and know whether or not to proceed. To me, I don't ha…